Social media has become just the norm. It’s how we communicate with our friends. It’s how we stay in touch with our family. For many of us, the first thing we do in the morning is check our Facebook newsfeed. It’s just a part of us that way. Well, for me, anyway.
Recently, I was scrolling through my newsfeed and saw a status update from a friend I hadn’t talked to in a while. Because I hadn’t talked to her in a while the status update caught my eye. I was eager to see what was going on with her. Imagine my surprise when I read the update. It was from my friends sister. She was letting all of us know that she had passed away. Apparently my friend had passed away on Christmas Eve of 2012. I was in total shock. She wasn’t a friend that I talked to every day. We checked in with each other periodically. We asked about each others kids and just the general life stuff. Still, this hurt. We used to be neighbors back when I lived in Ohio. She’d since moved to Pennsylvania and then back home to Georgia. I, of course, ended up here in Los Angeles.
Her sister had just gained access to her Facebook page and decided to update us all. Many of us were totally in shock. Some people were upset that we’d all found out on Facebook. I admit, I found it odd. The thing is, I also recognize that had it not been for Facebook, I wouldn’t know that she was no longer here. So, I take it for what it’s worth. This is what it’s come to. We find out about life events through social media all the time. Pregnancies, marriages, new jobs, graduations and now death. I don’t think I ever saw it going here. Her family is going to keep her page and use it to update us about her kids. I will be odd to see her name and picture flash in my timeline knowing she’s gone.
Her death hit me in another way as well. I remember her being in LOVE with her children. She has two boys and they were her world. Her oldest son is 15 and the other is 6. I couldn’t help but to think about them. I thought the realness of her leaving her children behind. I thought about the realness of her two boys having to grow up, cope and get through losing their mother. It’s almost too much to take. For them, I’m sure it does feel like too much.