As women, we tend to change – a lot. Whether it be our hair, fashion sense or what we want for ourselves. It’s always evolving.
As a single woman, I had this idea of me working in television or public relations. I imagined I’d drive a Jeep Grand Cherokee. It would be silver with gold trim. Yep, I was specific, y’all! I would wear pants suits to work and I’d live in New York. I even found an apartment on line that I just knew I would one day live in. Never mind that I was a recent college graduate and the apartment was in the middle of Manhattan and costs over 3k a month. It may have been a one bedroom.
My reality ended up being pretty close. I worked in television and part of my job was public relations related. I wore pants suits often. I didn’t get the Jeep Grand Cherokee but at one point, I owned a gold Jeep Liberty. My location ended up being Los Angeles. I’ve never paid over 3k a month in rent, for the record.
As I grew older, what I wanted changed. Throw marriage into the mix and what I wanted changed again. Once I had children, the vision I held for my life is far from what I expected as a single woman. In a good way. The thing I’ve always had to do is to make sure my dreams included me. My parents had their own dreams for me, but what did I want for myself? My husband has his own dreams and they include me, but what do I want for myself? I have dreams for my own kids and have built my life in a way that supports the dreams we have for them, but I still have to carve out the dreams I want for myself.
There have been times that I have to re-evaluate what I want and what I’m doing to get there. I’m committed to being an awesome mama and I know I have to make an equal commitment to being the best version of myself. It helps me to be an even better mama! I can easily lose myself in my family. My husband needs my support for his career (he works crazy hours and travels). My kids need all I have to give them. That can leave little time to to even focus on what I want and what that looks like. The thing is, I have to. Everybody has their needs, including me. I can’t just meet theirs while ignoring mine.
The woman I was before my kids is still there. Though I no longer want a Jeep Grand Cherokee (I’m happily driving a Ford Flex that I call my school bus), some of my other goals remain. So how do you get there? For me, I had to find a way to put my goals into perspective. I have a lot I want to do and needed some order and priorities! This worksheet helps me to put things in perspective and helps me to focus on my goals. It really makes you think about: What do you want?
Things tend to seem less overwhelming once they’re written out. Go ahead and download it, it’s free.
I hear from moms all the time about their goals. One big thing that comes up is they don’t know where to even begin. I figured I’d share what helps me. Hoping it helps someone else make some progress.
Let me know what stops or helps you make progress on goals/dreams?
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