Whenever I’m in a car by myself, I sing. It never fails. I sing – HARD! You would think I’m in concert. For the longest time, I thought I could actually carry a tune. So much so that I considered recording myself and posting it on YouTube. I was singing a gospel song and wanted to share the inspiration I was feeling.
There I was, on the road to San Jose. I was headed to see Oprah and I was rolling solo. No husband, no kids – just me time. I was singing my heart out. So, I hit record. Then I played it back. Thank the LAWD I played it back and wasn’t so bold to immediately post it. Oh my goodness, everyone I know would have judged me. Yes, I had a cold and sounded all kinds of nasal – but still. I was shocked that I sounded so not good. Here’s a shot of me singing my face off.
Don’t even try to hit that little triangle to have a listen. It’s a screen shot. You don’t want to hear my nasally crooning. Trust me! You’re welcome.
When I listened to the recording, my little feelings were hurt. I felt like I had just found out a secret so old that someone should have told me a long time ago. It doesn’t mean I’m going to quit singing though. It’s my release, y’all. I just won’t be trying to go on the road with it!
I was able to pull a few lessons from my singing mishap.
1 – Ignorance is bliss. You can believe you’re really good at something and as long as you don’t know you suck, life is grand. All that stuff you love doing – keep doing it. Even if yous suck, it’s worth doing it it makes you happy.
2 – Know your limits. I knew that video was not ready for prime time so I had enough sense to keep it to myself. It’s always good to know when enough is enough and be OK with pulling the plug.
3 – Know when it just doesn’t fit. One lesson that came through from the Life You Want Tour was Iyanla talking about not forcing yourself where you don’t fit. It’s like squeezing yourself into a dress that is two sizes too small. It doesn’t fit. It looks bad. You don’t even feel good about it. That applies to other areas of life too. If it doesn’t work – consider letting it go. At the very least, don’t post it to Facebook. 🙂
When is the last time you laughed at yourself?