Big Brother

From the moment my daughter was born it was true love. My son was mesmerized by his baby sister. I remember telling him, “She’s your baby sister all by yourself.” He was so proud that she’s “his” baby sister. Immediately, I could see that he would be the best big brother. For the most part, he has been.

He is very protective of her. He tells me when he thinks she’s hungry. He tells me what she’s “saying”. When they both went to the doctor for shots, with tears in his eyes, he was ready to fight when the nurse gave his sister a shot that made her cry. He shouted, “that hurts her”. He promised that next time, he would tell them not to hurt her. The look on his face said he meant it.

Shared story time with daddy

These days, I think all the extra attention she gets is getting to him. You know, since we pick her up, feed her and do everything for her. That’s becoming a problem. I’m seeing the jealousy creep up. It took 8 months, but it’s obvious now.

There are requests to be picked up. There is WAY too much whining and the random tantrums!!! Every now and then he decides a noise she’s making is her laughing at him. He shoots her a look and says, “it’s not funny!” Or we’ll give him something (milk, berries, anything) and he’ll say, “this is for me – just for me”, while looking at her.

We’ve been talking to him about being nice to his baby sister. He is for the most part. The kid just isn’t a fan of sharing EVERYthing with her. I get that. I’m thankful that most days he’s totally in love with her. She’s still the first face he looks for in the morning and his favorite play mate. I’m convinced this jealousy shall pass. Let’s hope it’s soon.

13 comments on “And So It Begins…”

  1. Let me check with my son… My kids fight like cats and dogs they love each other but the telling and the non sharing is ridiculous. The girl is bad at 3 if she asks her brother (6) for a piece of cookie and he says no she goes into her room grabs a toy and goes back and smacks him with it. I could not believe my eyes and the fact that she did it right in front of me was just…..I have never.

  2. Yup, the oldest ones will go through that. Our son is 4 months old, and I’ve noticed it with my daughter as well. She does not like the idea that she has to share me with her brother, but I also try to do things with her, to make her feel like she’s not really pushed out. Because she’s not. Hopefully, this shall pass.
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  3. Awww it’s sweet and hopefully it will pass. My 24 year old is still jealous of her baby sister who is now three! She feels the need to let me know that I have three kids not just one and when I ask for her opinion on a pair of shoes for Madison – for instance – she’ll say something like “she needs another pair of shoes, really Ma I need stuff too”! It’s hilarious!
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  4. My daughter will be at least five when we have our second baby, and I think about this often. She’s been the only child for so long.

    I know in the grand scheme of things, this is nothing to worry about, but I know the possibility of it being a “big deal” to her. Breaks my heart a little.

  5. What a sweet story about the shots. It’s totally normal, we go through some sharing issues as well, but for the most part it’s pretty good.

  6. This post is the best! Your little man is such a sweet soul. I love the part about something being “just his.” Growing up as one of four kids, I can totally relate. Those two babies of yours are very lucky to have each other, and two wonderful parents too. The pic of shared story time makes me swoon. Watching our husbands be such great fathers is what the good life is all about. Much love to you and yours, from the Ms in Austin. xoxo
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