Social media is a blessing until it isn’t. It’s a great way to connect with people that you haven’t talked to in years. I’ve reconnected with friends from high school and college through Facebook. A few weeks ago, I got together with a friend from elementary school. It wouldn’t have happened if not for social media. It’s also a good tool to help get the word out and allow people to rally around a cause.
Then there’s the down side. You know the one where we see someone else’s posts and think they have the perfect life. We assume their life is so much better than our own. We look at posts and think that mom has it all together. Her kids are always perfectly put together. She and her husband always make time for each other. Look how nice their home is! If you see that and you decide to try and keep up with that, it will drive you crazy. It’s a clear sign that you need a break from social media.
Here’s the good news. No one is that perfect. Those snap shots are just that – shots of a moment. In reality, that mom probably had to beg her kids to stand together and to keep those clothes clean for that picture. The wisdom she shares that sounds like she’s on top o it all – well, that wisdom has been hard earned. It’s easy to think that motherhood is supposed to look a certain way. If I’ve learned nothing else from motherhood, I’ve learned to decide for myself what motherhood will look like for me.
The other good news is that I’m seeing more moms tell their motherhood truth. Sometimes it’s exhausting. There are many times you just need a breather. As for me, I’ve learned to recognize when it’s time for me to take a break. The signs show up and I know I need to take action – for myself. I’m trying to get to the point where I don’t need these nudges to know mama needs a time out!
How how I know you need a break (and I do too)
Learning to lighten my load
Being snappy – I try to remember that the load I’m carrying is by choice. So instead of snapping at other people, I need to remember that doing my best is enough. It’s OK if a ball drops here and there when the most important things are taken care of. It reminds me and the people around me that I’m human. I can only offer my best. That will have to do.