There’s this word we hear all the time. It makes you feel powerful. It implies that nothing phases you. When people use it, we assume they walk through this world setting it on fire. I was all about it too. I was sold on being FEARLESS!
Who doesn’t want to be? Who doesn’t want to walk through life with no fears? How incredibly freeing.
For me, I’ve decided to look at the word a little differently. When you hear the word fearless it just sounds so big. It’s easier to digest when instead of being FEARLESS, I choose to FEAR LESS. Being fearless seems to imply that you have NO fear. I don’t think that’s true of anyone. We’re all afraid of something. It’s human. Choosing to fear less means that I focus on taking on one challenge at a time. There are things that I want to do that scare the crap out of me. I choose to acknowledge my fears and then, take the leap.
Feel the fear. Do it anyway!
It’s still freeing, it’s still scary, it’s still deciding to live life without limits. Goals are still being crushed one by by one. For some reason looking at it this way makes it easier for me.
As you take on your fears, here are a few things to remember:
Acknowledge the fear. Yes, it’s scary! There will be some “can I really do this moments?” Keep going.
Know that you make look silly. That’s always a risk when we try something new. You may look a little less than graceful in the beginning of whatever it is you try. It will get better. Keep going.
Put things in perspective. Are you going to kick yourself later if you don’t kick your fear and step out there. If the answer is yes, keep going!
What’s the worse that can happen? Let this be your mantra when you decide to try something new. Usually the worse that happens is nothing like the worst that we think will happen. Our imaginations create these crazy situations that really never happen. No matter what your imagination tells you, keep going.
You don’t need to be fearless to crush your goals. You just need to fear less.
What’s the biggest roadblock to conquering your fears?
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I completely agree. I don’t want to be fearless. I like to feel the fear and overcome it so I know I’ve accomplished something.
This is so true Camesha! I think I’m doing well in this dept.
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My biggest fears are failure. If I didn’t push through those roadblocks, I would literally be doing nothing, ever. I don’t really have anything to push me other than idleness.
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Great post. Fear can be a huge roadblock, but it can also serve to keep you focused and careful.
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This is good! It is a hard thing to just decide to be fearless. Great to think I just have to take it a step at a time. Thank you!
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As long as spiders roam the earth, I will never be fearless. BUT is some genius ever finds a way to eliminate them from existence, I might be 🙂
This is such a fresh and fun way to look at it! Maybe being fearful is sometimes a good thing 🙂
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My biggest roadblock to conquering my fears is thinking about all the possible worst-case scenarios. Even though they’re unlikely, they still hold me back more than I’d like.
It is impossible to be fearless. There is always going to be something we dread. It is what we do with that fear that matters.
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My biggest fear is not seeing my children grow up. Since I honestly have no control over this, I just do my best to be grateful for every day I am able to spend with them.
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This is so awesome. Most days I let my fear take over and it doesn’t help anyone. I don’t think I could ever be fearless but I don’t think that would be too fun anyway!
I have to say I haven’t focused on my fears. I have them but I do not spend much time giving them life so not sure what I want to fear less. Perhaps stepping out on a limb and doing the thing I am meant to do with my life without worrying about compensation and how we will continue to thrive.
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What great advice about not wanting to be fearless. I can remember my mom telling me she learned to be brave when she had kids – and we definitely tested her courage at times!
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Fear isn’t always a bad thing. It can protect us from all kinds of things. But it also has the potential to hold us back. I love your take on fearlessness. It’ll be something I remind myself of when I’m fearful.
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YES!! We have all the power to change our thoughts in a split second! We gotta keep going.
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Being fearless is not me. My fears keep me going. Fears don’t rule me but push me.
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That space in the word makes all the difference in the world, doesn’t it? 🙂 I would like to be fearless in some areas, and I would like to fear less in others. 😉
I am grateful that for most of my life, i have not felt very fearful…but always a sense that no matter what was happening, that it too was for a reason, would pass and i would get through it.
and so i like the word fearless and for me it never meant that i don’t fear anything it means that i am going to tackle whatever full steam ahead.
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I love this post! Fear is ever present. We just have to learn how to recognize it and not let it control us.
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I can’t explain it, but the biggest roadblock to facing my fear is ME! That little voice in my head that tells me to stay in my comfort zone.
I think failure holds me back. I don’t want to let anyone down
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Great advice! I think a roadblock for me can sometimes be wanting to make something perfect before showcasing it, or being fully prepared before trying something new. Then I always remember that God didn’t create me with a spirit of fear, so I just have to go for it!
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This is powerful stuff. It is not easy being a mom and having to uphold the dreams of everyone around you. Sometimes we need a boost as well.
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“Fear Less” I love that because being fearless can be dangerous too. Thanks for the sound advise.
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I want to overcome my fears. I usually do this by jumping into whatever it is I fear!
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Definitely love the quote by Victoria Roth. If only we can stand and steer FEAR in the face and tell it exactly where to go.
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I am the biggest obstacle to accomplishing my goals. And I know that. I get in my own way ALL THE TIME. LOL. I’m working on it though!
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This was so awesome! I never thought of it that way! Thanks for such great thoughts on being Fear LESS!
I think a little fear is a good thing, I think a no fear is just plain dumb because that’s when people start making mistakes! Great post!!
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I really needed this today. Sometimes the fear of exploring new territory can be daunting. The fear of doing something wrong can be an intimidating roadblock.
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I think our fears motivate us to be better. That is always important to succeed!
I love this. It’s absolutely right. Fearless is not what we should be striving for.
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Oh I love it! It’s not about being fearless, it’s about fearing less 🙂
I also agree when you ask yourself “what’s the worst that could happen?” I find myself asking the same question in similar situations. Lovely article!
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Yeah I can’t imagine a life with no fear, we all fear something. The loss of a loved one, losing your job, etc. But I do like the idea of conquering your fears for things that make you feel empowered when you do.
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my biggest roadblock to conquering fear is acknowledging I am afraid. Once I do that, I can take steps to over come it.
This is a great article. I never want to be fearless because a small bit of fear is good for everyone.
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What an inspiring post!! I completely agree with you…in my opinion, fear = failure!
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Is there anyone without fears? I think fear is part of our DNA already! We cannot run away from it.
I completely agree. Fear is a double edged sword. As much as we don’t want to feel it, we NEED to feel it.
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There is no better feeling then overcoming fears, it’s a huge accomplishment!
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I don’t know if I any fears currently blocking me. But I agree about fearing less.
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I absolutely love this! It is so important honor your feelings both good and bad. Thats the only way to make actual improvements in your life.
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The biggest roadblock I used to have was flying. I finally took the plunge and took a couple of flights. I’m trying to figure out what I need to face next.
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Yes!!!! People absolutely mix up what “fearless” means. The fear will NEVER go away. In the book I co-authored with my sister she said: Being fearless means that you fear LESS that which you don’t know, than you do dying without ever have using your gift to light up the world.
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Great post. I never really looked at fear in this way before, sometime fear can be used in a positive light, to help you get through something or pass that exam, test, interview etc. e.g fear of failure.
Oh I know that I’m my biggest road block. There’s just a certian point that I won’t move beyond but I’m working on it.
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I like your choices for the word fearless – being less fearful and having faith – faith in our Higher Power yes – and faith that we have and will learn to do what is needed for ourselves and others. As, Christine also said, to use our gift to light up the world. Beautiful post and on target!
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“Feel the fear and do it anyway” is on of my favorite quotes. I agree everyone has fear and like you I am focusing being Fear Less and giving myself permission to make mistakes and learn from them. Great post!
I face my fears, if there’s a roadblock, I tell myself that every problem has a solution.
Love it! It’s not about being fearless, it’s about feeling that fear and Doing it Anyway! Great words.
All of my fears have to do with the safety and well-being of my daughter and my family. So I am working on not letting the fear rues our lives.
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I have no clue what the biggest thing is that could be holding me back. Maybe it’s just getting out of my comfort zone…I don’t know
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I agree, I do not want to be fearless because I think it takes some of the excitement out of life. It is about how you control and face that feat that is important.
Yes. yes. 1000x yes! I love this so much!
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I agree, acting like we are tough doesnt always do everyone around us good. Its good to be able to reflect to become stronger, not just moving past and ignoring!
Same here!! I think if I were to be fearless… Nothing would be exciting anymore! Olive a good challenge 😉
I love this way of looking at fear! I have to work on fearing some things less! Great lesson!
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I love that line “Feel the fear. Do it anyway!” because sometimes my self doubt gets in the way. I’m going to use that saying as a mantra to nudge me forward.
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Worrying too much is my roadblock, I guess. But I’m proud to say that I’ve conquered a lot of my fears despite being a worry-wart. 🙂
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I remember when I was a kid there was a story about a girl who was fearless and I always wanted to be like that. But back then my biggest fear was failing my math test lol.
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I am my own worst enemy. I have let my fear of the extra weight I have gained hold me back from truly living life. I am trying to feel better about myself and change that, but its really hard.
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This is so true! Sometimes it’s fear that pushes us forward. There’s no challenge without resistance.
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Such an awesome post! You are so inspirational and I love your message!
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Awesome! I love this – fear LESS! Going for it! TY!
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I think i am my biggest road block when it comes to fear. I think about things to much and talk myself out of things.
I couldn’t agree more i too choose to be fear less and acknowledge what scares the bejesus out of me but keep going anyway
I love how motivational and positive this is! Sometimes you have to do things even if you’re scared.
I like your take on being fear less because no one should be fearless really. A healthy dose of fear is good for you in my opinion.