The president of a television network once told me “you can have it all, just not at the same time.” She’s a married, mother of two with this high-powered job. I could imagine the juggling act she was performing daily. It got me to thinking: Balance. Is it a joke?
As I have made the transition from full time working mom in the crazy entertainment business to the crazy world of entrepreneurship, I have had to think about what having it all means to me. Does having it all mean having a booming career with the lifestyle to match and an equally thriving family life? Can all of that really exist at the same time? The vision of having it all totally depends on the eyes you’re looking through.
For me, the term “having it all” took on a different meaning once I had children. Before the arrival of my babies I knew exactly what I wanted. My ideal life had me working in entertainment in New York city, living in an apartment in Manhattan. I figured I’d wear super fashionable clothes and drive a Jeep Grand Cherokee. I seriously formed this vision while in college. Call me crazy! I ended up pretty close. My career dreams landed me in television in Los Angeles instead of New York. I did buy a Jeep. I got the Liberty instead of the Grand Cherokee. I worked for the Style Network so it was pretty much a no-brainer to stylishly show up to work!
Fast forward to my mommy life. All of the good stuff of my career became less appealing to me. I didn’t want to go to parties or events. I wanted to be at home with my babies. I was no longer interested in endless hours at work. I had other priorities. My having it all now meant spending as much time as I could with the people I created and the man I created them with.
I decided to define having it all having and balance in my own terms. Balance for me is on a day to day basis. I spend my days with my children. That means that my time is not my own! I find time to do things for me and I maximize that time. Some days it’s a perfect dance we do. The kids get all they need and they take wonderful, full naps. During those naps, I get to crank out tons of work and cross some things off my massive list. By the time they wake up, I’m ready to play some more and enjoy them. There are other times that they act like sleep is an evil monster waiting to eat them up the minute they close their eyes. I don’t get a thing done until bed time and even then I’m exhausted. Balance. It’s a day to day thing. My focus is making sure everyone in our house gets what they need. Sometimes someone needs a little more or less. That’s balance for me. It’s not an overall life thing. I find that too overwhelming and then I end up kicking myself when something doesn’t workout. By taking it day by day, I give myself some grace and allow room for things to not be perfect. It works for me.
So tell me, what does balance look like for you? How do you define having it all?
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It’s so hard to balance everything but it’s important! I try my hardest to leave work at work so I can enjoy time with my friends and family!
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Balance is a hard thing to find as a mom. It is especially hard when you work from home. It is something that has to be decided for each individual person I think.
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there’s no way to have it all. We have to learn how to balance priorities
Melinda recently posted…Five Star Home Foods for Home Delivery
I definitely agree – it’s hard to find a balance some days. I either feel like I’ve been an awesome mom or I’ve been an awesome business owner, but not always both.
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Right now, I feel my life is pretty balanced and if I ask for any more, I would feel very greedy… but then, I don’t have kids at home any longer.
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Being happy in the moment is having it all for me. Bills paid, house warm, and happy bellies.
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I still struggle to find balance sometimes. I feel like I take on too much sometimes, but it all always works out.
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Balance is sometimes hard. Just find a point to do your best.
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Balance is a HUGE thing! Especially since I work at work, then come home and work on the house or my job from home. I try to schedule time DAILY for spending quality time with my son and my husband!
I try to balance work and my personal life. It can be challenging and I’m definitely not perfect, but I do the best I can and that’s what matters.
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Balance is difficult! I’m not sure if exists.
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I don’t believe there’s ever a perfect balance. We’re all just doing the best we can, taking care of what needs to be taken care of.
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finding balance is a daily struggle for me, Balancing kids, home, work, family, friends, exc its enough to make anyone overtired and crazy.
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I am still struggling to find balance between my family, blog, and other life things. I believe I “have it all” though, because I have such a wonderful family and great friends.
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I think balance is a mythical creature. All we can do is what you’re doing – taking it day by day going with the flow of shifting priorities.
Balance is definitely important. Sometimes it’s a challenge, but it all works out in the end.
I am still trying to find a good balance, but when you have kids, things always seem to be up in the air. I feel like I have it all when I see my family happy and healthy and know that all their needs are met.
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I think the secret is to just do your best. I try to have work,life, balance. And my only trick is that I don’t sleep much. That is how I get it done until I crash and sleep.
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I’ll tell you when I figure it out 😛 It’s a constant struggle for me. Blogging has turned into running two small businesses and I still homeschool my now 13-year-old daughter. How funny that your pre-kids dream included a Jeep Grand Cherokee – not really the typical single fashionista car 🙂
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I love this!
Balance is a total myth, you have to choose what you actually want to spend your time doing (or someone else will, as someone famous said sometime)!
Your old boss was totally right, you can’t have it all at the same time. But that’s ok!
xx
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It can be so hard to balance everything and I do not think you can all the time but I just try my best.
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Having it all to me is to be able to be me and enjoy life with my family. It means being healthy and financially able to enjoy life as I want. Balance is a good mix of responsibility and fun.
This is such a great post. It is important to find balance as best you can in life.
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balance looks like what I do now. I love my job I created and I am flexible enough to be home when the kids are!
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Having it all to me, means being happy with where you are right now. I am so thankful for the blessings we have.
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Balance for me is being happy, having a happy family, the bills being met, the roof over our heads sound, and working at something I love. Not too much, right? 🙂
Balance is hard, especially when you are a one-man show like me. Single mom, solo-preneur.I have mastered the art of juggling
Love this post! This is a question that I tackle all the time with clients in my coaching practice. Balance is always in the eye of the beholder.
Balance can be very hard to obtain. Everyone’s definition of having it all is not the same either.
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I really love your post. It’s such a hard thing to balance it all. For me, I know that when I have kids I am going to want to spend all of my time with them. That’s why I got a puppy to start 🙂 I work from home and throw her the ball while I work 12-15 hour days. Right now my business is my baby because I really do think it can have an amazing impact on the world. And the best part is my husband is so understanding and we spend time when we have it. You definitely have to create your own version of balance
I struggle with balance. I feel like something is sufferng but when I strike that balance? I’m a total power house.
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I have found being self employed can be hard to find your balance. I have also found that I had to stop comparing myself to others who work from home.
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To me having it all is being happy with what you have. Life is not about things. Find happiness in what you have and you will have it all.
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Balance seems to go hourly for me! I wish I had it easier!
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My daughter is 10 now. My life balance has changed numerous times since she was born! I just take it day by day.
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Great question. I have no idea what having it all means to me. I am at a crossroads in my life and think about this often.
Balance is so hard to do. Im struggling with it right now.
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I’m the same way with balance. Kids are soo unpredictable. Its a challenge, to say the least.
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Great Post! 🙂 Oh Gosh – balance is a juggling act. Some days i have awesome balance and on other days not so much. Totally agree – balance is a subjective thing. So these days i judge balance my how i am ‘feeling’ – i.e who i am being and not what i am doing and what needs to get done. So i tend to go by my feelings as long as i am enjoying the ‘doing’ process, then that equals balance to me – if not – then it means am going into overwhelm and stress territory so feeling unbalanced and time to stop and take time out to find my balance – hope that makes sense.. ♡ xx
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Having it all and balance…those are great discussion questions. I’ll have to think about what those mean for me. Hmm.
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Great post! For me it really helped to accept that my idea of balance has changed. As a VP in a big corporation, I had no balance and for awhile that was ok. Until it wasn’t and I was burnt out. Now that I have my own career mentorship business, I find it easier to balance my life because I make my own schedule based on my priorities. The trouble is that I’m the only one holding me accountable! Thanks for sharing Camesha!
My days are work and my evenings are for my boyfriend. My kids are grown but if they were still at home, my waking hours would be for the kids and I wouldn’t be working. That’s just how I always did it. I didn’t work until they went to college. Even now when I’m with them, I don’t work at all. That’s just how I like it!
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