“You think you’re all that!” When people used to say that, it was considered an insult. It was a shot to let you know that whatever confidence you were putting out there, they weren’t interested in receiving. I had a hard time with that when I was growing up. It was tough to be confident. It was tough to be proud of myself. Not because I had done anything. It was because of how tall I was.
At 12, I was 5’11”. That’s obviously far above average. Being taller than all the boys AND girls in my class wasn’t an easy thing. People notice you when you stand out. And standing out, isn’t always seen as a good thing. It’s a reason to make someone feel awkward. That was a part of my childhood. That made it hard for me to understand that the confidence I tried so hard to muster up was OK. It’s OK to know my worth has nothing to do with what other people think of me.
The crazy thing is many of us don’t learn this lesson until we’re well into adulthood, if at all. It wasn’t until college that I started to really begin to feel good in my skin. I think it was because I got to shed the high school cliques and was able to get a fresh start to define who I was. That was the beginning of me falling in LOVE with me! I realized that my worth was only defined by me. I wasn’t looking for it from other people.
Here’s my definition of self worth these days:
Self-worth is the value I place on myself. It could be my time, my talents or my physical being. Everything and everyone has value. The key is knowing what yours is and not letting anyone else decide for you.
That’s a lesson I’m glad I learned when I did. College was a great place to find myself but it’s also a great place to lose yourself. Being grounded in who you are during that time is crucial.
Here are 3 ways I’ve found to boost your self worth. Because we could all use a boost every now and then, right?
Do something you’re good at. No matter what it is. If you’re good at it, do more of it. It will give you a boost!
Keep your thoughts in check. Understand that how you think about yourself is key. What you think becomes what you speak. What you speak becomes what you do. Then it becomes your reality. There’s power in words. Speak well of yourself, k?
Be proud of you! At the end of each day write down something you’re proud about. Did you ace a test? A presentation at work went awesome? You got through the day without pulling your hair out because your child won’t nap? Oh wait, that’s me. You get the gist! Just take a little time to remind yourself that you rock! When you see it on paper it sinks in a bit more. So, write it down!
What does embracing your self-worth look like to you?
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I am worth it and that is why I make it a point to make time for me every single day.
Self-worth to/for myself is always changing. These days, I’ve been struggling to see where I am worth anything but I know I need to try harder. I love your definition!
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Keep trying, keep working, keep pulling for YOU. I am. 🙂
I think self worth is something you have to learn if you don’t have it. Me…. I have it, my self worth changes but it’s always priceless. I do love to teach people how to learn how to have self worth and to be confident!
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Love this! Self worth is so important and it’s scary how many people I know personally who have little to none, I work on mine daily! So important! And, we are worth it!
Self worth is guarding my heart and mind against anything that would bring negativity to my peace of mind, classroom, home and/or intimate space. It is allowing my light to shine without apologizing because it is misread by others. I recognize that I am who I am because of Christ! Self worth is saying no to others and yes to myself so that I can be at 100% for me and my son, for my dreams, goals and visions. It is refusing love that hurts and causes me grief. Self worth is valuing me above all else because I am fearfully and wonderfully made by God for a great purpose.
It is so important to make time for ourselves. Great post and wonderful reminder
It always makes me feel better to do something I’m good at it! The satisfaction of a job well done is really uplifting.
This is so true. Self confidence goes a long way. If you believe in your self others will believe in you.
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What a great reminder. I know that it took me a while to figure out I could do what I love doing and be successful at it.
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Thinking positively about myself is something I need to work on. Lately I’ve been very down on myself, very pessimistic, and I know that this kind of self-reflective unkindness is harmful in the long run. Right now I feel like I’m at a crossroads in my life, where I need to make the right change so I can feel better about myself, and I need to feel better about myself so I can make the most of that change.
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Take it easy on yourself. Good luck with making the changes that suit you best and reflect all of your awesomeness.
You should feel good in your skin. You are gorgeous. Have a lovely Wednesday.
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Aww, thank you so much. You’ve got me blushing over here.
Thanks for the reminder that I’m worth it. I think sometimes the self worth gets buried under the everyday tasks and before you know it its lost. Congrats on the book!
I need to have my daughter read this. She’s in high school and struggles with this a lot, but we always tell her that she’ll find herself in college. I think this would validate that for her. Thanks for sharing your story!
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Please share it with her. If she can take anything from my experience, that would mean a lot.
Woot Woot! A fellow tall girl & blogger..bonus! I loved this post and being 6ft early on I think college is where I really loved being in my skin too. I remember hearing it quoted on TV that tall girls “do that thing where they hold their chins up”. There is nothing wrong with being confident and showing it!! Let’s all walk with heads held high!!
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Hi fellow tall girl!!! #chinsup
It’s sometimes hard to be confident. But you’re right – everyone is good at sometime. Do more of it!
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Self worth is very important! I’m so proud of my kids and my sisters kids because they are so impressive in this area! Showed that I need to work on myself!
lovely post.. and on that note, I guess I am a girl boss too
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SElf worth is so important, and you are so right the more you do something you are good at, the more confidant you become
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Thank you for a wonderful and very helpful post! Understanding self-worth makes a world of a difference to anyone’s life so I am glad you were able to share your perspective and let us know of that free ebook too. Thanks for sharing 🙂
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What a great message to send out, some people really aren’t aware of how awesome they really are.
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Amen sister! Although I didn’t gain my self worth until my late 20’s I ain’t giving it back. I decide who I am and what I am worth and won’t be defined by others!
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I love the energy in your comment, Andi! It just makes me smile. That’s right don’t give it back! 🙂
Growing up in an environment of sexual abuse at home and bully abuse at school my self worth and self esteem was damaged at a very early age. These days it is a struggle to put myself first and take care of my own health, but this time I have to.
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I’m sorry, Chrystal. That’s a lot to overcome. Keep pushing! There’s always a struggle before a breakthrough. I’m rooting for you! (hugs)
I’m trying to learn self-worth. I spend so much time telling myself I don’t do enough… I need to stop!
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Yes, please stop! There is no need to beat yourself up. 🙂
I totally agree with what you said about being able to comfortable in your skin once you got out of high school. Once i started college, I realized I had a whole new world of people who I could interact with and I could pick and choose my friends instead of being stuck with the same people in my high school and trying to feel like I fit in. It did a wonder for my self esteem and self confidence to make friends who truly loved me for me!
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That’s exactly it. College was a great time for me.
Camesha, I loved your entire post, you had me laughing so many times…love the humor you infused in a very important, if not crucial, lesson for all of us to learn. I am a grown woman, mother of two amazing boys, and sometimes I forget that I have value. Period. I love your words, “Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.” You rock! ~Jul’s
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I’m so happy you stopped by! It’s easy to lose sight of our value as moms. We invest so much in our kids that it’s so easy to get lost in it all. You rock!!! 🙂
This post is so great! I agree with it all!
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I really relate to this, because I’m 5’10”, so, I totally get it. High school was so damn awkward.
Anyway, I can say that the most beautiful thing about being in my 30s is finally not giving a crap about what anyone else thinks about me, and just learning to love myself for who I am. It’s been a really awesome experience.
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Yes!!!1 The 30s kicked it up a notch for me too. I just don’t have the time or energy to care most days. It’s like you get to a point of take more or leave me.
Beautiful post about self worth! Thanks for sharing!
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thanks for the great reminders, some days we need a little boost
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What a great post. A wonderful reminder to take time for yourself bc you matter.
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I always loved that saying that went a little something like “If you can’t fall in love with you, who will?” (paraphrasing) and it’s so true! You have to love yourself and know you’re worth it before you can expect anyone else to!
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This is a great article! I think women and girls are pretty well setup to feel uncomfortable in our skin. It’s like we’re genetically programmed to compare ourselves to other girls in school and then to other women in adulthood.
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It’s like it never stops. None of us are perfect. I’ll stick with my version of imperfection. 🙂
Worth to me looks like accepting that it is okay for me to be myself. I spent a bunch of years trying to be who other people wanted me to be. I finally decided to be who I want to be and tell people they can either accept it or move on.
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Such a great lesson for us all. How we see ourselves, think of ourselves and speak to ourselves spills over into how others treat us. I see this a lot in relationships. If you value yourself and your time and talents you can pass by a lot of drama. Good for you for loving yourself.
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I totally agree with what you said. I read this quote that stuck with me recently. “The sooner you believe you are extraordinary, the sooner others will follow.”
I was just reading an article that talked about how words can really affect us and how we feel and then it said how words we say to OURSELVES have the biggest impact. It’s hard when we are bombarded with what is “ideal” or “perfect” for a woman to be. We should all take a moment to tell ourselves we are worth it!
Yep. It’s the stuff that we say to ourselves that cut the deepest. I look at it like this: an ideal day for some could be competing in a triathlon and for others it could be relaxing on the beach. There is no one ideal. I think it’s what we make it.
My childhood was full of put downs and insults that has and still is taking years to overcome. But by the grace of God I am finally seeing myself through His eyes and I am beautiful. We all are. Great post and great tips.
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I’m over here cheering for you! Once you start to see yourself the way He sees you – game changer!
I’m glad you’re making strides!
You gave such beautiful and heartfelt advice here 🙂 It’s so important to practice self-love and feel confidant in your own skin. Thank you for sharing, you really put a smile on my face!
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Thank you so much. I really appreciate that. All the comments here have been beyond touching. I’m just happy my experience resonates, you know?
I have been struggling with self-worth issues lately… this was nice to read. thank you.
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You are so welcome! xoxo 🙂
Great message! Everyone should have more self worth!
Self worth is something that I have struggled with for years after giving up a career outside the house. Switching to a stay at home mom and blogger took years to stand behind. As of now, I know how important I am! Go me!
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Yes! Go you! I know what you mean. Going from a career to being at home is tough! I’ve been learning that first hand. 🙂
Self worth is definitely not defined by others. Thanks for the reminder.
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I like to think that we are all different for a reason. When people ridicule you for your differences, that is their problem, not yours.
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Lovely inspirational post
Thanksx
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This is a wonderful post. I think self worth is so important. I think if you can just believe in yourself and make things happen you’ll always know you’re worth it. Everything is worth something!
Excellent post. Self worth is different for everyone. It’s not something you can teach, it is something that must be discovered for oneself. Thank you for sharing.
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This is an important lesson for everyone to learn. Self confidence can really help people along!
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I struggle with this. I was raised in a family where there was no self worth. Everything I could do was only because I inherited it, so I still don’t get self worth. But I’m working on it! 🙂
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Keep working on it!! Jot down a list of all of the great things about you. Instant boost! 🙂
self appreciation is a big topic! most of the time i feel good about it, but i do have self doubt!
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It is so important to know how own self worth and carry the confidence through like you said your confidence has nothing to do with other people thats just you. Great post
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Love this so much, self appreciation is very important; we need to feel confident and happy with ourselves!
I too was 5’11 at 12 and continued on to grow another inch and a half. I was always approached with the tired lines of “tall glass of water” and “…climbing trees” because of course, I appeared to be older than my years.
I never backed down or felt ashamed about my height. I celebrated it. My parents always reminded me of my worth.
Now, I am raising a daughter who is 5’9 at 15 and continuing to grow. She has witnessed by esteem and has naturally embraced it in herself.
Goodness, we sound like long lost twins! I grew a bit more too and stopped at 6’1″. My mom was always my biggest cheerleader and I think I just didn’t believe her. What was I thinking? lol
Knowing your own self worth is essential. I completely agree with finding something you are good at to help find your self worth.
“I am worth it!” is a nice mantra to tell oneself for inspiration and motivation. I also experience times when I feel that I am not enough as compared to other moms, other women but also a realization is that comparing yourself to others is a very dangerous hobby! =)
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So dangerous. It’s easy to get sucked into that though.
I know that many people struggle with their self worth. I have even been down that road myself. As I’ve gotten older, my self esteem has greatly improved over the years.
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This is a wonderful post. I used to have such issues with my self esteem and then I finally reached a point where I just didn’t care what others thought about me.
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Self worth is important to instill in children from an early age. When we tell our kids they can’t all the time, it has an impact. By adulthood, it takes work to overcome.
So true!!! I try to be very aware of my words because I really believe they hold power.
I struggle with self worth daily. I’m a busy mom of 3 boys with severe fibromyalgia. There have been so many days that I wonder what I’m contributing to their lives. Luckily I have a great support system to help remind me that what I do and what I am IS important!
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Yes! I’m thankful for your support system. Even when you can’t do all that you want with them, I’m sure you’re contributing more than you realize. Give yourself some grace, mama! 🙂
Thanks for the reminder to be proud of our accomplishments. I spend so much time thinking of things I could do better, I should be happy about what I’ve already done!
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Absolutely! When you really take a minute to think about it, you’ll be giving yourself hi5’s because you’ve accomplished so much.
I can totally relate to this. I was also a tall pre-teen I’m not sure why or how but I was very confident in high school after struggling in the pre-teen years.doing things that I love definitely makes me feel much better about myself.
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I absolutely LOVE this, self worth for women is so important!
Self worth/self love is something that I’m always working to improve. I used to have terrible self confidence, though it’s gotten better over the years there are days I find myself slipping back into old ways with negative self talk. Great reminder, to do things I’m good at XOXO
It’s so easy to slip and forget how awesome we really are. Nobody is at the top of their game all the time, right? 🙂
What a great post. I may not look like I am used to and it does affect me a bit. I am still confident in myself though, I know my worth!
We’ve all changed. I see old pictures of myself and I’m like “who’s that girl?” Gotta work on what we can a love ourselves through it all.
fabulous and oh-so true definition of self-worth!
I think this would be a great article for my son to read. He starts college in a few short months and he is in the process of trying to find himself.
Please feel free to share. Finding yourself can definitely be a struggle, especially at that age. 🙂
Your website is beautiful!!
This was such a great read. I’m a fellow tall gal (5’10) and was going through the same thing in high school. I was pretty confident then, but hearing people say stuff like, “She’s kinda cute, but she’s so tall!” or “She’s fine for a tall chick” really irked me.
Whitney #blmgirls
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I love this post! At the end of the day, I judge myself based on if I feel proud of my actions in life. I value the opinions of my close family and friends who know me well, but I don’t think twice about strangers who know next to nothing about my life. Love your strength and spirit! Thanks for an inspiring post 🙂
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Thank you so much! I really appreciate that. It’s awesome when we figure out who and what really matters. 🙂
Great post. I love the tips especially writing down something that you are proud of yourself for. I’ll be sharing this posr.
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Thank you. I’m glad you enjoyed it. 🙂
Hey Camesha! Thanks so much for stopping by my blog! I am so glad I got a chance to check out your blog. I love your gorgeous design and the positive message you talked about in this post! So happy to connect!
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