You may not be guilty. It could just be me. I’ve been guilty of following so many rules. Sometimes too many rules.
Don’t say this. Only say that. Make sure to try this. Never try that.
It can be hard to navigate under so many “rules”. It could also be hard to remember them all.
Why do we even have so many guidelines? They set order, for sure but they also create restrictions. Me no likey restrictions. How much is too much?
I’ve learned that in order to achieve anything, sometimes you have to break a few rules. Especially if you’re a dream chaser trying to create a life you are in love with. And that’s the goal, right? That’s the point of all these dreams.
Here are FIVE rules you should start straight up ignoring TODAY.
Saying yes to everything – You can’t be everything to everybody. Be choosy about what you give your time and talent to.
Just be it – Whatever “it” is. Start living as if you’ve already achieved it. If you want to be a business owner, start doing things that a business owner would do. It’s kind of “fake it til you make it”. I prefer to see it as stepping into your dream. If we start intentionally living out those things we want, they have no choice but to become real. It’s all about action.
Go for it before you’re ready – Sometimes plans are really a form of procrastination. Trust me, I know this! Sometimes you have to let go of the idea of “getting ready” and just go for it. It’ll force you to figure it out.
Wait for permission – I think that this is something we learn as kids. We are taught to ask for the things that we want and then wait for permission to receive them. That’s still a good idea in many instances. There are times though that you need to know the only one you need permission from is YOU.
Not sharing what you think – You have opinions. We all do. There are times, especially as women, that we pull back. We shut ourselves up when we really should be speaking up. Please know that your ideas, your opinions, your thoughts matter. What you have to say could make a huge difference. If everyone is going left but you know they should go right – say so.
Speaking of sharing your thoughts… (I’m so clever), share your thoughts with me on this. Have you been guilty of any of these? What rules do you need to break?
*This post was inspired by Ali Brown*
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Ok so i’m guilty of saying yes to everyone and everything. Then in the end I’m burnt out or confused. lol. I’m working on becoming more selective and most importantly embracing the “No” when it comes to business. Thanks for sharing #BLM
My husband thinks I can’t say No. Is a hard rule for me to break, but the rest are easy peasy for me.
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This is so great! I’ve been guilty of all of these. I used to have an especially hard time with saying yes ALL the time.
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I am definitely a people pleaser, but I can say no when I have to. The Boston in me makes sure I speak up when needed 🙂
Ahh yes, “go for it before you’re ready.” I love this one! It seems like I always want to wait until I have things all together before I pursue something and often times, it’s just fear speaking. #BLMGirls
I used to say “yes” to everything. Now I’m a little more selective – what do I want to do, what deserves my time and talents. What can I do best.
Debra recently posted…It’s All Happening At the Zoo This Summer – #NYisWild
I’m getting better at saying no, but I’ve got a ways to go. I hate confrontation, but I will if I have to.
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I used to say yes to everything. Then I learned to be more picky and think before I say yes.
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Some rules are meant to be broken for sure. Sounds like you have your head on straight with which rules are worth breaking.
Crystal Green recently posted…Sharing Our Myrtle Beach, SC Vacation With You
Being assertive without being rude is a good quality. It’s too easy to just go with the flow.
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It took me a long time to finally stop saying yes to everybody who asked something of me. I have a friend in his 40’s who just learned. I have another friend in his 30’s I’m trying to get to learn the word NO. Don’t know why it is so hard a lesson for some of us.
We definitely cannot say yes to everything! We tend to feel that we will let people down and they’ll be mad at us!
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I’ve been trying to say to a lot more lately! It seems that the more I say yes, the happier my son is!
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These are all rules I need to learn to break. I’m too shy and I hold myself back in so many ways… not in good ways at all! I’ll have to print this out and remind myself I really need to go for it!
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I’m still guilty of saying yes to everyone and anything they ask of me!
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I can very very guilty to saying yes to things I don’t want to do, I need to fix that! Though I’m very out spoken and not afraid to share my opinion. These are certainly rules to break!
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I often find it difficult to say no and tend to take on too much because of that. I can think of a few rules I need to learn to break.
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#3 guilty…I tend to over think and wait to long to jump…I been doing a bit more jumping less thinking
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I identify with those rules. I definitely have to learn to say “no” to the people who want my time yet never reciprocate. I often pass on giving my opinion, since I am honest with it and some people aren’t ready to accept that. They want a yes-man, and that’s not me.
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I’m not sure if you have seen the movie “Yes Man” before. It was about a man who was committed to say yes to everything. I thought that cannot really happen in real life and we must choose to do only what is important.
I have a really hard time saying no to things and sometimes I hold back saying what I really think. Those are some things I should really work on because it can be really draining.
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Oh gosh, I am SUCH a rule follower, I don’t know if I can do this!
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Saying yes to things I really don’t want to is something I am terribly guilty of. I would love to break that bad habit for good.
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I unfortunately have been guilty of all of them and definitely will be working on changing that for the benefit of my future. Great post, very motivational
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Sometimes it’s fun and important to break the rules. I try and say yes to as much as I possible can 🙂
What a great post to put up. There really are some norms that I do that I could veer away from for my own good. Asking permission is one of them.
I absolutely love that quote!! Sometimes I do feel like you have to break the rules…but only with good intentions!
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I’m pretty good at saying no. But I really need to work on sharing what I think. That’s a hard one for me.
I used to say yes to everything especially when it came to running competitions on my blog but now it’s catching up with me and it’s too much! I’ve learnt to say no the hard way.
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I’ve learnt in a hard way way, saying no is very important in our life. People may get hurt once you refuse them but it is the fact and they need to accept it.
I enjoyed reading your entry and learned something too. When I was younger I didn’t know how to say no, but as I’ve matured and learned the things what I truly want, I’ve learned to say No. Great read, thanks!
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Guilty!!! I like being me and I do break rules. lol
Debbie Denny recently posted…Time for Alligators in Hot Springs!
I’ve spent way too long following everyone else rules and have gotten nowhere. I’ve been trying to break some of these rules already to create a life I want.
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Great tips, you are so right! I have the saying yes to everything problem..sigh.
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I think i have been guilty of all of these at some point in my life. As i have gotten older i have realized i need to be happy and to stand up for myself. I can not say yes to everyone.
One of the things that drew me to my husband was that he was confident in sharing his opinion. He can do so respectfully, and doesn’t get flustered if others have a different opinion. It’s something i need to work on.
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Waiting for permission is a hard one for me. I always felt like I had to wait
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Love this post! I have a bad habit of saying yes all the time. That’s something I need to work on.
For the longest time I said yes to everything that came my way when my husband and I first met. Now that I no longer want to be the yes person, there’s like this dark cloud over me because people just don’t get why the sudden change. Well, because I need to start taking care of me and that means saying no to you and putting me first. Its a hard one for sure.
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I usually always feel bad when I say no to someone. I’ve heard over and over that it’s okay to say NO more often. Maybe I should break that rule!
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Sometimes I do things without a plan, those spontaneous and random urge is worth doing sometimes.
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I am so bada bout saying yes to everything, I am such a people pleaser. I am learning to say no beucase it is just so much better for me!
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These are great points. It’s very hard to not say yes when you’re a “I want to help everyone person”. Each one of these should be practiced by everyone!
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I love these! I’m a big fan of making your own rules!
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I think the first one is the hardest for many women. We have such a hard time saying no! I tend to have trouble speaking up, because I get a lot of flak for going against the flow with my opinions or convictions and I’m sooooo non-confrontational by nature. It’s good to be a rule breaker sometimes! Great list!
Keisha Gardner recently posted…Ramen Noodle Crust Pizza
Sometimes. it’s always good to be able to express one self.. a lot of people have issues with that.
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Planning can definitely be a form of procrastination! Sometimes you have to just take that leap and believe in yourself.
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